How to share

One person speaks (“shares”); all other people listen with full attention.

The speaker shares from their heart. Not concepts, not thoughts, but what is in their heart at that moment.

All others pay as much attention as they can to listen to the speaker, trying to understand. It’s okay if the mind wanders off, but as soon as we notice it, we go back to listening.

As listeners we don’t comment, react, judge, or give any advice. We just listen. This is called deep listening.

This seldom takes place in everyday life. People don’t listen — they listen for a short period, interrupt the speaker, give unwanted advice. Often this leads to the speaker stopping mid-share, or not sharing at all.

By listening deeply, healing takes place.

The next person sharing does not relate to what was shared before. They simply share from their heart as well. This is not easy — we tend to share about the same topic; be aware and resist doing this.

The speaker speaks uninterrupted until they finish. They signal beginning and end. If the speaker pauses, even for a minute, no one interrupts until the end is signaled.

Everything shared in that session is confidential. No one speaks about what was said outside this sharing group.